In our daily conversations, we often hear stories about someone that are packaged in an interesting way. At first we only hear it in passing. But slowly we start to pay more attention. The story feels "exciting" and provokes curiosity. Without realising it, what was originally just words in the ear began to form an impression in the heart. From then on, the way we perceive the person slowly changes.

The author of Proverbs understands this inner dynamic. He describes the words of a slanderer as delicious food (v. 22). Not only because there is a person who delivers them, but because there is a heart that enjoys them. The words do not stop at the hearing; they go down deeper and settle in the heart as prejudice. Moreover, most people do have a tendency to be more easily attracted to things that have a negative tone. That's why bad stories about other people often feel more appealing to hear.

At the same time, Proverbs also reminds us that not all sweet-sounding words come from a sincere heart (vv. 23-25). The author describes it like the shards of silverware: beautiful on the outside, but fragile on the inside. Gentle words can be a cover for a heart that harbours hatred. But hidden hatred will eventually be exposed (v. 26). Even those who dig a hole for their neighbour may fall into it themselves (v. 27).

Therefore, wisdom invites us to be careful with words, both those we hear and those we speak. What we let into our hearts will shape the way we view others. Let us cultivate a clear heart and sincere speech, so that what comes down from the word into the heart is not prejudice, but life-giving kindness.